Defensiveness is usually a natural reaction when something happens that doesn’t meet your expectation of how someone should treat you.
Only you can listen to your inner voice. No one else can hear it… but if they could what would they say.
I actually don’t know anyone who goes around in the world thinking “I wonder who I can offend next”.
After a while, you’ll secure a fine collection of co-dependent, emotionally dead, unproductive, non-contributors that are easy to manipulate using these proven techniques.